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You in all probability don’t know who Celeste Gay is. That isn’t at all what she deliberate.
An aspiring actress, Gay isn’t chasing fame, however she additionally isn’t working from it. So far she has gotten the largest publicity not onscreen however by being herself — and sharing a resonant story, full of ache and remorse, of how she stop her job a few years in the past and moved to Atlanta to interrupt into films and TV.
Gay envisioned herself engaged on screens each huge and small, bolstered by the thrill of the town that’s been dubbed “Black Hollywood.” Instead, she discovered herself in her automobile on a dreary day throughout her lunch break final month, emotionally sharing her story on YouTube to her 42 subscribers. She titled it “57 and Broke.”
“It has been really tough for me because of some decisions that I have made that I regret making,” she stated within the video, clearing her throat. “I always talk about Atlanta and I feel like when I left my corporate job making a good salary and decided to chase a dream, thinking everything would fall into place, things would be in order, my life blew up.”
At the top of her rope, Gay recorded the emotional video to be clear about her scenario and the errors she’s made. She rapidly came upon she’s not alone. Her clip earned her greater than half a million views and an outpouring of assist, and she or he now has greater than 21,000 subscribers on YouTube.
“It just kind of knocked me over like a tidal wave,” she instructed NCS of the response. “I didn’t think all this was going to happen.”
Her newfound viral fame is just not the primary time Gay has been knocked off her ft.
Growing up in Tennessee, Gay did all the things proper.
She majored in journalism and theater at Tennessee State University, received a grasp’s diploma in enterprise administration and advertising, and landed a job in Washington, DC, as an editor.
But she by no means received over the performing bug she caught within the sixth grade after showing in a play.
“I always loved acting, but I was trying to be a ‘quote unquote responsible adult,’ get the 9 to 5 job, have the benefits, save for the 401k,” she stated. “But I wasn’t satisfied.”
By her early fifties Gay was twice divorced, child-free and dealing as a program supervisor at FedEx in Memphis. It was a “good job,” she says — she managed a gross sales workforce, earned about $80k a 12 months and had advantages many individuals would envy.
But it wasn’t sufficient for the lady with stars in her eyes. Gay started to think about leaving this stability behind to pursue a profession in performing. She says greater than a few individuals tried to speak her out of it.
“My manager said at the time, ‘Let’s think about it — reconsider,’ and I was like ‘No, this is calling me. This is what I believe I’m supposed to do. This is my time,” she recalled. “He was a great manager and he understood. I did have a few other people say ‘Are you sure?’ And I was like, ‘Yes, I’m sure.’ And I left. I packed up and I left.”
Gay felt assured that success awaited her in Atlanta, the place many films and TV collection are filmed.
“Before I went I had a conversation with a younger actress and kind of talked to her about my plans,” Gay instructed NCS. “I asked that exact question — do you think at my age, with my gray hair, I could get parts? And she did say that there (in Atlanta), because of my age bracket, I would have opportunities.”
The universe appeared prefer it was making a manner for her.
A pal in Memphis related her with a non-acting job alternative in Atlanta that she stated was “right up her alley” and all the things appeared aligned for her to get it. Then, Gay says, she “self-sabotaged.”
“I said, you know what, I can’t do this job,” she stated in her video. “I’m going to be acting. I don’t know when I’ll need (time) off … I made an excuse because I’m thinking it’s going to be ok.”
But in Atlanta, the profitable performing jobs didn’t come.
Instead, Gay tried to make a residing by delivering for DoorDash and dealing the in a single day shift at Walmart.
“I did everything I could,” she stated in her video, her voice cracking with emotion. “I also ended up withdrawing my pension and my retirement because I just didn’t have enough money. And this is not how I expected things to go. I really didn’t, because I’d always landed on my feet and this is the first time I had not.”
After a 12 months Gay lastly landed a regular job, however she stop as a result of her supervisor didn’t like the truth that she was pursuing performing. She left to work in an Amazon warehouse, one thing she loved and that she felt helped her get again on her ft.
But her housing in Atlanta additionally turned a problem. After residing with a roommate for greater than a 12 months Gay determined to maneuver into an condo on her personal. She quickly found it was infested with cockroaches.
“I thought, ‘OK, maybe this is a fluke, I’m seeing a few, they exterminated, the place has been empty awhile,’ but no,” she stated in her video. “In my bedroom I would try to cover the door so they wouldn’t get in, it didn’t matter. They got in. I woke up one morning and there were some crawling up the wall, and I thought, ‘I can’t do this.’”
All the whereas Gay was auditioning for roles, which any actor will let you know is fraught with rejection. The odds in Hollywood are specifically stacked towards older ladies. According to a 2019 Screen Actors Guild study, 37% of all male actors solid in movies and TV reveals the 12 months prior have been 40 or older, in comparison with solely 24% of feminine actors. When it got here to guide roles, the disparity was even larger.
Gay stated she did land a few commercials, together with ones for USAA, Hallmark and Capital One, in addition to roles in a some brief and unbiased movies and the tv film, “A Nashville Legacy.” But after not working for a 12 months and being hit with a main tax invoice from cashing out her retirement financial savings, she was deep in debt.
It all turned an excessive amount of for her and she or he determined to maneuver again to Memphis, however not earlier than making yet another questionable determination — passing up on a distant, full-time job that might have employed her on contract for 2 years.
“I decided not to work remote,” she stated. “I regretted that, because I’m thinking I’ll go back to my old company. That did not happen.”
But if you’re feeling sorry for Gay, questioning how she received it so mistaken and even a combination of each — perceive that she is correct there with you.
It was simply that advanced mixture of emotions that led her to take a seat in her automobile on a wet afternoon in February, filming her now-viral video. Gay instructed NCS she felt “mixed emotions” about the emotionally uncooked clip.
“Even though I recorded it and I made myself do it right then because I was feeling it in the moment, I came home and listened to it and I thought, ‘OK Celeste, put it up,” she stated. “But it was a mix of being conscious of how embarrassed I was, and even after I posted, I thought, ‘Should I take this down?’ But I felt better after doing it. Honestly, I actually felt a lot lighter.”
The video took off slowly however was boosted by shares from extra outstanding accounts, together with comic Lil Duval who posted about it on his verified Instagram web page which has greater than 4.3 million followers. People left feedback of assist, sharing that they too have discovered themselves in tenuous monetary conditions or simply merely questioning, “Is this all there is?”
“I am 58 and feel women our age should work together in small groups. Please do not blame yourself. Life happens,” wrote one YouTube commenter. “It is hard to find women with courage and health to start something together. You are very inspiring. Thank you for sharing.”
Not each response was constructive, even when it got here from a good place. Some individuals instructed her to cease saying she was “broke” as a result of it’s self-defeating. One commenter accused her of a sample by which “you reject good advice.” But Gay is grateful for the eye her video has obtained.
“I am blown away by the response that it did get because honestly, I did not expect it. I thought 50 people would see it, and I’d go on and, you know, put up another video later,” Gay instructed NCS. “But I believe that, first of all, it was the authenticity.”
Gay says she thinks her video struck a chord with others who’re struggling to carry it collectively.
“I believe the video that I posted opened the door for people to … raise their hand and say, ‘This is my situation,’ and not have to feel bad about it.”
Gay is much from alone in her present circumstances, stated Judith Gonyea, a professor at Boston University’s School of Social Work who has written extensively about traditionally deprived older populations.
“If you look at the statistics, we see how many older adults in the US are facing economic hardship — particularly women and women of color,” Gonyea stated. “So it is not surprising that (Gay’s story) resonated so much.”
Women specifically face ageism with regards to looking for employment later in life, Gonyea stated, in addition to racial and gender discrimination.
“For persons like Celeste, if they’ve been out of workforce for a period, reentering can be very difficult as employers often prioritize candidates with recent experiences,” the professor stated. “There’s the technology gap concerns and there’s appearance bias, because societal expectations about aging and appearance can negatively affect how older women are perceived in job interviews.”
Gay says she finds consolation in realizing that different individuals share her challenges and life classes. She’s glad to have heard from ladies who really feel seen because of her story, one thing she had not initially thought-about.
“Honestly the truth is I had just had it. And I felt as if I was at the end of my rope, and I felt as if I was alone and it was only me going through this, even though I know that’s not true,” Gay stated. “I know other people have challenges as well. I don’t know what gave me the gumption or the courage, but I walked out of my office and went and got in my car and just started recording with no plan.”
She stated she “has a greater hope” since posting the video. So many individuals have reached out to her, she says, together with individuals from her previous whom she had misplaced contact with. She “counting that as a blessing,” she says.
“I feel like I’m part of community, and my hope and prayer is that I can give back as much as I feel like as I received, because I feel like I have received so much more than I’ve given,” she stated.
And whereas a monetary advisor has helped her provide you with a funds, Gay stated her monetary scenario hasn’t modified a lot.
Returning to Memphis didn’t imply returning to her outdated life, as a result of she couldn’t get her former job at FedEx again. Gay says she confronted rejection after rejection earlier than lastly touchdown her present contract job. She requested NCS to not identify her present employer.
Gay nonetheless owes taxes from having cashed out her retirement and stated she plans to maintain working and posting on YouTube. Since her video went viral she’s now in a position to earn a little cash from her posts.
But she sees the constructive the place she will be able to. She nonetheless has the automobile the place she filmed her now-famous video, though at one level it was in peril of being repossessed after she fell virtually three months behind in funds.
Director Mann Robinson lately solid Gay in a supporting function as a grandmother in his upcoming movie, “Turnt AF.” In a current Instagram video she praised Robinson and the crew and referred to as engaged on the film “a really good experience.”
And for these questioning: Yes, regardless of her struggles Gay would nonetheless like to be a full-time actress. So Tyler Perry, in the event you’re studying this, she is aware of her manner round a film set.